Have you ever felt like you were spinning your wheels for someone (possibly your children) only to have them question your love and/or commitment to them?! Perhaps you are just speaking a different "language"?!
There is a popular book called The Five Love Languages that discusses the idea of learning to "speak" the love language of the people in your life.
The basis behind the theory of love languages is to help you discover your own love language and that of the people that you love in order to truly "speak" their language. When you are able to effectively communicate your love and commitment to them, it can result in developing more fulfilling relationships.
The author of this book describes the five areas in which most people feel loved:
1. Acts of Service
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Physical Touch
4. Quality Time
5. Gifts
An example may be that you are always expressing your love to your child by showering them with hugs and kisses, but they convey that they don't feel very special or loved because you don't spend much time with them. It could be possible that your child's love language is not physical touch, but quality time.
This is not to say that you shouldn't express your love through hugs, kisses or snuggles, but that you can truly reach the core of that child's heart by spending uninterrupted time with them.
We hope that you will take time to discover not only your own love language, but also that of your child(ren), spouse and other special people in your life.
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